Little ears can hear

Ye toh sunta hi nahi hai!
She is such an angry kid !
I am fed up with them!!
Ek hi nahi sambal raha, forget having another one!!!
shaitaan hai Ek number ka!
Haan ise tum hi rakh lo..

Have you ever spoken these lines or similar lines, to your friends or family member casually/as a joke or in all seriousness – IN FRONT OF YOUR KID? “

Remember, kids are intuitive & moreover those little ears can hear you + their emotional brain is fully developed.

if your kid can feel and sense insecurity/jealousy when you show affection towards some other kid in front of them, without even explaining this emotion, they can sense it…

So now imagine when they listen to you talking about them in front of others, in fact, repeating these affirmations again and again- “how naughty these kids are”, “iska main kya karu?” etc..
Your child might feel ashamed, upset and confused hearing these conversations. They may not be able to tell you what they heard or how they’re feeling –you might not even notice it if they’re worried, but subconsciously it stays with them..

Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? Think of the last time you felt humiliated or treated unfairly. Did you feel like cooperating or doing better?

We, adults, are so careful when we are criticizing another ADULT, we make sure that person isn’t around… We don’t want to upset them, right?
Then why are we so damn comfortable criticizing our kids in front of anyone and everyone?

Don’t get in the habit of complaining about your kids. Be discreet about your kids indiscretions.

I guess while growing up, we all have heard a lot of this and have gotten so used to it that we don’t think much about it now… It comes naturally at times..

Some legacies are better left behind, no?

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Garima Bisht
I am a parenting coach and blogger based in Singapore. You can checkout my Instagram page @lifeofmaai

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